"A fool uttereth all his mind; but a wise man keepeth it till afterwards," Proverbs 29:11. The point being, a person is foolish who, in the moment of passion, speaks his mind. The danger is that much of what will be said would not be the best of words. In Proverbs 25:11, "A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver." Also in Colossians 4:6, "Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how to answer each one." We must not only choose our words carefully, but we must also know what would be an appropriate time to impart them to the hearer. The words we choose must not be coarse or corruptible but gracious, pure, and palatable.
But the only feasible way in which our speech can be tamed, is not to speak our mind without consideration. Man must demonstrate wisdom by holding our peace until the time is more appropriate. Ecclesiastes 3:7 says, "There is a time to keep silent and a time to speak." By not being so quick to speak, we allow our passions to calm and our tongues to be cooled. Only then will the time be right to say what is needed. So don't speak your mind, but rather speak with wisdom.
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