Many estranged couples give excuses like, “We just drifted apart” or “the spark just went out in our marriage”.
Marriage isn’t going to work by itself. Men and women must put aside their pride, educate their ignorance, and practice some creativity to enhance their relationship. Women, it isn’t a sin to bring your husband some flowers, or treat him to a romantic dinner. Men, it isn’t weak to surprise your wife with gifts, flowers, loving words, open doors for her, or help with the house work. Couples must practice enjoying one another—like the enjoyment one gets from a cold drink on a hot summer day (Ecclesiastes 9:7-9).
Suppose you were following a friend in your car to his house for the first time. In order not to get lost or too far back from him, you would apply all your attention and creativity on staying behind him at the right speed.
Suppose you were sitting in front of a warm fire on a cold night, concern and effort would have you apply all your energy on keeping that fire going. Your concern will not allow the fire go out.
Reader, if you can understand the examples we just mentioned, then surely you must understand how such will work in a marriage. Both persons must purpose to keep the marriage alive (Daniel 1:8).
Hope to hear from you or see you at the services.