One spouse cheats on the other, and the spouse who didn’t cheat takes a lover in retaliation. “If he can do it, I can too.” “She don’t understand that two can play that game.” So in reality, what do you really have when this kind of conduct occurs in a marriage? Do you have good judgement? No! What you have is two black pots, attempting to call the other black. In this kind of situation, no one is right, and there sure are no winners (Romans 2:21-22).
Violating the marriage vow is a sin, and God will hold the offender guilty (Rom. 7:1-4; Proverbs 6:24-35). Rather then compounding the problem and making it worse, a innocent spouse shouldn’t take a lover but should use the liberty God authorized to put the offender away on grounds of adultery (Matt 5:32, 19:9). Yes, that is what should be done, and it should be done quickly. However, an innocent person may wish to save the marriage and give the offender a second chance. If so, that is the innocent spouse’s decision because that person holds all the cards.
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