This is only for people who believe the Bible to be God's word.
If a person is dead not one prayer or sermon at a funeral is going to help or change what the life was (Job 7:6–10; Ecclesiastes 9:4–10; Eccl. 11:3; John 8:21). After Halloween each year the day of the dead is remembered by some and there are parades and other celebrations. As it has been said, that matters not—because dead means dead and afterward the next stop will be the Judgment bar (Hebrews 9:27). Many people ask for prayers for those who have died, but such prayers are vain because prayers are to be offered for the living (1 Timothy 2:1–2, Matthew 5:44, John 17:9, James 5:16, 1 Samuel 12:23; Philemon 4).
Matthew 5:28 teaches that whosoever looks on a woman in order to lust after her has committed adultery in the heart. This is bad news no matter how you slice it. Adultery in the heart is just as bad as adultery with the whole body, for both will send you to Hell (1 Corinthians 6:6–10). In order to avoid lust, don't think about it or place yourself in a position where you will give in to it. Start focusing on good things that are positive and can be shared with others.
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