Many white people are puzzled about black people calling each other the "N" word and then getting mad when a white person uses the same word. No one should be using the "N" word.  A black guy shouldn't be calling another black guy that word and neither should a white guy or any other race, call a black guy the word.

And if a black guy uses it to address blacks; why should he get upset when a white man uses it?  Such is ridiculous; for the meaning is the same regardless who uses it. Don't use the word at all!  It is degrading and was invented to trash people and make them feel inhuman. Throw the word in the garbage can and let the trucks carry it away. Speak what is edifying, and if you can't speak words of encouragement; don't speak at all (Ephesians 4:29; Colossians 4:6). Jesus said our words will justify or condemn us on the Day of Judgment (Matthew 12:34-37).
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​It would be wonderful if emotions were controlled while debating—that way people could disagree without becoming disagreeable (Ephesians 4:26-27,29,31-32). Losing it and engaging in shouting matches occurs on many cable news shows. The TV will be on and the next thing you hear will be yelling and when you go to see what is going on, you see people on a panel supposedly giving points of views, but instead they are arguing just like one may see in the streets.

Mastering emotions isn’t easy, but the Bible teaches that control must be achieved. “Temperance” is the word we are looking for, and its meaning is “self restraint” (Proverbs 16:32; James 1:19-20; 1 Corinthians 9:25; Titus 1:8; Ecclesiastes 7:8-9). Such a virtue requires practice, prayer, and determination. To have self control is a great thing because it eliminates other people from pushing our buttons. So get busy and control those emotions. Don’t fly off the handle. Don’t cuss. Don’t hit or slam things against a wall. Don’t hurl insults or interrupt the one speaking. etc. Keep your composure.
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If I may give some words of advice to a young man or woman just starting their lives; this is what I say. “Remember your Creator while in the days of your youth.”Ecclesiastes 12:1-7. Many give their best years to Satan and their weaker years to the Lord and that ought not be. With their bodies broken down with aging and sinful living, there will be every little they can do for the Lord.

“Listen to the wise people who have travelled the road before you.” These people aren’t trying to cramp your style, instead they are warning you of the dangers on the road ahead and hoping to spare you grief. Proverbs 6:20-35. Life is good but it is also unpredictable and who couldn’t benefit from help with an uncertain road.

“Establish yourself personally and financially.” Learn responsibility, maturity, become self dependent, leave your parents and stand on your own merit, become a strong man or woman capable of taking care of your own business (Ephesians 4:28; 1 Thessalonians 4:11-12). Devote yourself completely to this goal and don’t allow other things to happen so that you are taken off course and delayed or prevented from reaching your goal. And having children is one of the top reasons many young people get messed up. They aren’t ready for a family, yet they find themselves with a child. Children are to be born in the married household according to the word of God (1 Timothy 5:14).

Wait until marriage to have your children and make sure that you are 100 percent stable and ready in all aspects for marriage and life in general.
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Birth control isn’t something that the Bible commands people to do. The use of contraceptives is a matter of human opinion and should be left at that. The sex act between a man and his wife is not just for creation of a child, but is also for the fulfillment of human desire. Notice what the scripture said in 1 Corinthians 7:1-4.

Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is well for a man not to touch a woman.” But because of cases of sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.
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